Being alive is the possibility of being with the other, of always being caught up and integrated, but it is also the possibility of being subjected, becoming adapted to circumstances. The fears and crawling caused by the iniquities of being tied to advantages, results, and purposes are reductive—they express and amplify the non-acceptance of being alive, of existing.

Chance creates bonds and often sets traps, which are bonds as well, albeit established by other weaves or other variables. The mythological story of Oedipus, who, unaware of the identity of his promised wife, marries his own mother, is a classical example. There are countless cases of lost, orphaned, or adopted children who find the perfect romantic match in their own sister or brother. These identities are not always discovered, except for teratologies (genetic abnormalities) found at random in the offspring. And so, simple examinations become a way of reconnecting the threads of the story of biographies scattered to the winds.

At some point in your life, having made a connection, met someone, but then lost sight of them, and later finding them in conditions that reveal possible impediments, such as being your best friend's husband, is a discovery, a reunion, but it is also pain and despair, due to the insinuation of double loss, of a tragedy that is coming, of a renunciation that is required, just as much as it is the reunion that you want to celebrate. It's an ethical universe threatened by the certainty of the encounter experienced as an existential discovery. It's conflict, it's a love triangle, it's the insinuation of the complete, it's Zeigarnik.

The interruption of tasks, the interruption of encounters and purposes is persistent, present, and demanding. What to do? Give up or insist? Continue or discontinue? The paradox is excruciating, there is so much compression that new realities emerge, almost like a metaverse. A new journey begins, a hidden private universe, only experienced by the very people who have found and lost themselves.

Nothing exists without occupying a continuous place in space—nothing exists without continuity, without a trajectory, only hope, inertial bubbles, or procedural residues. It's fire-fatigue, renunciation, what has been because it hasn't been. It's the river never found again at its initial point of contact. An arbitrary third bank may emerge, but it also disappears. When what was lost is found again, the very explanation of what was lost configures it in new contexts that give it another meaning. Jocasta, for example, Oedipus' mother, is the mother who is not a mother, because she is a wife, being the mother, being what she is, and what she is not, which neutralises everything, dramatises everything, and empties everything.

In lives that intersect, in other words, in encounters, the apprehension and realisation of situations delineated without formalization, without indices, without codes, can and does happen. The insinuation of the Figure—explained by Gestalt Psychology's Law of Closeness—leads to the perception of totality.

A drawing of grouped lines whose angles don't close, whose sides come close but don't touch, for example, can be perceived as a triangle. The creation of parallel universes always keeps the universes real, because experience is the magic touch that restores everything. Illusions, fantasies, desires, frustrations, and goals are perceptual polarisations. They are often dictated by non-acceptances and aspirations, by goals and desires, but they can also arise from injunctions, mixed realities, and experiential configurations. It is through existential questioning, exercised by psychotherapy, that everything is clarified and reconfigured in its proper structuring.

Zeigarnik: processes are infinite, movement is eternal. And when we relate we establish limits, positions and spaces, we discontinue and interrupt in order to continue. This creates tension and motivation. Bluma Zeigarnik—from Gestalt Psychology—a researcher who studied the phenomena of memory, discovered at the beginning of the last century that interrupted tasks were often more memorised, more remembered than completed tasks. This experience is very fertile: we can understand motivation, being interested in something or someone as a function of this discontinuity, this interruption. The Zeigarnik effect explains the tension created by what is not completed.