Sadness always stems from interruptions: losses, deaths, unwanted changes, or even, it is the clarification of processes that were outlined, generating nostalgia and frustrations. Being sad is the great pain in the face of the abrupt, even if it is felt and expected. The unification of these opposites - abrupt and expected - is sewn by sadness, a line that lights up and erases experiences, encounters and references, creating its unfolding of nostalgia.
The death of a child, of a loved one or an esteemed animal, causes sadness. It is the disappearance of signs, of presence, of experiences. Everything is blank and unmarked: what are now signs is the memory of before. The present is swallowed; only remembrance and memory reign, performing the magic of bringing something back, of making everything heard and seen as it was before. In these moments, sadness is an abyss, a break that prevents continuity, satisfaction and tranquility. The persistence of this process transforms the present into a receptacle of memories and instills nostalgia. This look back and there halting, when too long, becomes a well where everything is swallowed, and thus revelations emerge, sadness was the sign, the password to update the processes of non-acceptance of oneself, of reality, of limits.
Being sad, being taken by sadness is a frequent encounter when affections are experienced, when they are transformed, when they are lost - separations, deaths, accidents - and disappear. The disappearance, the absence of what it held and had a meaning, causes sadness. It is the dark that erases everything, obscures and allows nothing to see, except stumbling. Sadness is the fall into the void of reality when it is transformed, when it is only a marker of temporality: Before and After. This tense transition is the passage that narrows, distresses, and makes us cry. Living with this sadness becomes a mark, a background, a reference, a context that allows transformation and new experiences or generates persistence, destructive positions of the dynamics of being in the world.
Life is movement, it is dynamic, it is impermanence and it is a flow that necessarily implies changes or modifications. When this aspect of instability in life is not accepted, neurosis is structured. That means, among other things, denial of changes and non-acceptance of the transformations inherent to everything that exists. This is the positioning, the self-referencing that creates bridges, planes, levels and static perceptual contexts. In other words, patterns serve to translate the enigma of the world, of the other, and hide the impossibilities. It is perceptual distortion. So this positioning, this interruption comes when the value of the extrinsic, the contextualized, the situated begins.
Losses occupy a primordial place in the events of change that move, affect and shake people who repudiate the dynamism of life. For those who reject the experiences of loss, sadness is constant, it becomes the context of everything.
Sadness is an occurrence, it is a life process, it is a passage, the disappearance of what held us back, of what had meaning. Transforming it into a point of support, a reference from which everything is perceived, transforms this aspect of the encounter, of experiences, into a bottomless pit to justify the non-acceptance of limits, losses, separations and changes.